Starting university is an exciting time, filled with new experiences, but it can also feel overwhelming, especially when it comes to making friends. If you don’t connect with people right away, know that this is completely normal. Friendships take time, and it's better to wait for the right people—those who share your passions, hobbies, and values—than to settle for connections that don’t feel authentic. Here are some top tips from me to build friendships and create lasting connections:
Flatmates: Building a Welcoming Home
One of the easiest ways to start making friends is through your flatmates. Even if you're not best friends right away, investing time in getting to know them can make your living space more comfortable. Sharing meals, watching TV, or just chatting after a long day of classes can create a supportive environment where everyone feels welcome. Your flatmates may not end up being your closest friends, but they can still form a core group of familiar faces to return to after a tough day.
Coursemates: Expanding Your Academic Circle
Instead of sitting next to the same people every lecture, try moving around and introducing yourself to different classmates, especially in the first few weeks. It can be helpful to exchange social media handles and plan to meet up outside of class for non-academic activities. Smaller group settings, like seminars, are a great opportunity to engage in conversations and make connections since there's more room for interaction compared to lectures.
Societies: Finding Your Niche
Joining societies can be one of the most effective ways to meet people with similar interests.
Societies provide a welcoming environment where you can bond over shared passions, whether it’s through sports, hobbies, or cultural interests. Personally, I met my best friend and current flatmate at a Harry Styles society event during Welcome Week! By getting involved in societies, you’ll naturally meet people who align with your values and interests.
Give It a Go Trips
If you’re hesitant about going to events alone, check out the "Give It a Go" scheme offered by
the Guild. These trips are designed for students to participate without needing a pre-formed group, making it an ideal way to meet new people in a low-pressure setting. From visits to a donkey sanctuary to pumpkin patch adventures or even a trip to London, these activities offer a fun and affordable way to bond with others.
Communities and Peer Support Groups
Whether you’re looking for others who share your background or those going through similar challenges, these groups can offer meaningful support. Check out the groups listed under “support” to find various networks that align with your interests or needs. See also the diverse communities you can connect with.
Sports Clubs in the Athletic Union
Whether you’re already active in a particular sport or looking to try something new, training sessions, match days, and the Wednesday night socials create opportunities to bond with teammates. The camaraderie built through teamwork can quickly lead to close-knit friendships. Take a look at the list of clubs.
The most important thing to remember is that everyone’s journey is different, and there’s no
need to feel discouraged if you see others with seemingly large friendship groups while you're still finding your circle. Making friends takes effort and time, but you’ll eventually connect with people who are right for you.